why

hello!
welcome,
how have you been?
I was thinking,
what exactly is the purpose behind the relationships we go into? Now I don't mean just romantic relationships (although that's my bus stop). Like Parent/child relationships for example, these are the first relationships we go into ever in our lives and we pretty much know the reason (purpose) for this relationship, but the other relationships we form along the journey called life we really do not think them through... "I want to be her/his friend because she's/he's beautiful/handsome, intelligent and has nice things" and you go into being friends with someone based off seemingly important frivolities...what life changing character or experience do you have to gain from said person? better still, what does this person stand to gain from being 'with' you or are you going to become the bane of her/his very existence? I know, you're about to say, but I can't know what she/he has to offer until I actually become friends with him/her... and to you I say don't rush into friendships, sit back, relax and study everyone around eventually you'll drift to people with like minds and intentions, while there have been people that jumped into friendships and were lucky to get the right magnets to stick to...others became dangerously adhered........

Now for the big part, (my bus has reached its destination) so you are in an "its complicated" situation with someone and you ask the person what the purpose of the relationship is and what's the answer? "let's see where it goes", you become a "booty call" or a "cutty buddy" and you say its love and later you say your heart was broken, well no because "let's see where it goes" isn't defined and he/she will eventually find the one that his/her response is "I want to grow and evolve with you" or something along those lines... please brother/sister "let's see where this goes" doesn't usually lead to anywhere except well your xbox spoilt and you're looking for new games.... but if you are looking for relationships that could improve your life and current state of being, then it most definitely helps to define what you want from the very beginning and know what you are looking for and aren't looking for, so you don't end up getting something you didn't bargain for.... just like going shopping without a list, everything looks appealing and you end up with a ton of useless stuff while the useful things were not even gotten.

In order to find purposeful relationships/friendships we also have to make those going into these relationships/friendships with us not feel like they are just ticking time, or feel like they are just being drained and not being filled...

The idea of knowing what you want also makes you know what to expect because not everybody can offer you what you want, so plan your next relationship/friendship what do you want from it? what do you have to offer to it? is it going to build you up or tear you down? It helps to know why you want to be in a certain relationship/friendship so when you meet the rocks and bumps (they are always there) you and your friend/partner will know exactly how to overcome them without being shattered... except well if this things don't matter to you and you don't really care then have fun wanting frosties and getting frostyz...😆
                                      The real purpose of a relationship is about two people
                                       coming together to serve the growth and evolution
                                        of each other's souls.
                                                 - Kate Blackson
                                                     
                                                        XO